[Nightmare Series] Chasing After Ghost

This one will be different from the rest, since it does actually affects me irl. Had a nightmare before actually facing another nightmare. Don't really want her to read this but already sent her the link, and I don't have any other place to write my stuff unless I change the link address. Not gonna do that, got into so much trouble just to start talking. If I go back now things will just return to what it was. I'll have to face the problem head on. Okay, to know the context of the story I think I'll just write most of what happened at this date down, since I'll probably try to forget it in the future (as usual).

Two weeks ago, on 2nd of September, I went out with this girl I like and confessed in the shittiest way possible. I realized on the spot that I had no idea how to convey my feelings to others, not just the 'romantic' one, but most of them except joy and sometimes frustration. On the next day I called my friend out and finally talked about all these feelings. I broke down in front of him, tears that I was always hiding because I don't want people to think I'm weak. For a moment it felt like I'm sharing all these weight that I had to bare alone to someone I trust. But there are still regrets of talking about it, he'll never see me the same way again. Maybe troughout my life I always had to look strong, that I will be the only person to do this, because nobody else will take this place. I don't want to look weak because I want pity from him, or want him to 'save' me from this position, there is no salvation. I just want someone to listen, cause facing it alone is really painful. But at the same time I don't want things to change. It already did, there is no going back.I assured him that I'm a lot better now, I'm not feeling any of those shit anymore. Guess what, the next day I had another break down.

I don't remembered exactly what I was thinking, my brain doesn't like remembering sad stuffs, probably to keep me sane. But what I remembered was I finally got the answer I wanted, I got rejected. I told her I wanted to meet that day at night, she told me it was her mother's birthday, but I still managed to get her out. All I was thinking was, I had to talk, I already did it once, I have to do it again. I told her everything again, but I was already feeling better, no break down for me yay. I thought that things could be the same again, since I got an answer, I could lock all these feelings back. We finished talking and she sounded chill, so I sent her back.

The next day I had another break down again haiz, didn't had any mood to work, it was a Friday. I tried my best to do what I could and when the clocks hit I left early again. I went back home and slept early that night, didn't want to think. On Saturday I woke up early and went to Mid Valley my self, first time in my life doing this lol. Watched Tolkien alone. Tbh it felt a lot better than I thought, spending time alone like this. The cinema was empty that day, the movie was quite relatable at few scene I actually cried. But when I left the cinema I felt a lot better, Tolkien's story taught me that both sad and happy ending still makes up a story. Your life might be shit, but it will still end like every story. I went home feeling much better, I thought that thing has ended, I'm finally settled.

So I chatted with her as usual, but I didn't try to hide the fact that I still like her. The truth is I want things to go back to the way it is, I thought that if you really like someone hanging around with them is good enough. But a part of me is worried that if this continues, I'll never get out of this feeling. The last time I finally got out of it was by running away, heck it was always by running away. As you stop hanging out with a person long enough, you'll eventually grow apart, that's how time heal. But this time it's different, how am I suppose to get out of this thing? I didn't thought much of it, because imagining not being with someone I like (regardless of gender) is painful to thaught of. Things escalated, and I invited her put few times for movie (and she ffk me as usual, which I'm starting to get used to now). Today, we were supposed to watch a movie together, but she had some emergency and had to cancel. It kinda felt like shit cause I pushed back some stuff at work to make it work. I wanted to cancel it the day before, for me I wanted a break, maybe that I'll settle down once I give it enough time. Regret not doing that, cause now I have other mixed up feeling to face.

Okay finally, the nightmare. The night before I had a nightmare about her. I remembered walking into a room seeing her having intimidation with another female, and during that moment I acted like I didn't cared at all. I didn't spend time thinking about it, and then the dream slowly shifted to something else. I was looking for her, was asking around all the places, and finally got a person with the same name, we were at some kinda of haunted house (or more specifically a muzeum about ghost?). Hung out with her and realize it's not the same person, no idea how I didn't recognize it immediately. I remembered trying to sneak away when that girl (kinda...... fat?) was putting on make up. Then I end up at the back door, looking at a bunch of orphans. At that moment I thought, I need to help them, but that would mean giving up the search. Then I woke up, the sound of my LINE, received message from her saying that she had to cancel due to some emergency.

Now come back to this, I wanted to ask her out again, cause I really wanted to watch the movie, and also because there are few things that I wanted to ask her and settle it once and for all, and also just because I wanted to hang out with her. I knew that she would be busy in the coming days. The chat escalated and she end up saying that she might watch it herself. Well, naturally this would feels like nothing, but for me it simply indicates that I'm being, avoided....... Again. After all these efforts, all these experience, I tried so hard to avoid it, and I'm still being avoided. It was always the same, from kindergarten to primary to secondary, college or even university. People just avoids me, and never once was I being told that they don't want to hang out with me. Every single time, I have to discover it my self. That high school crush I had, posted it on Facebook instead of talking to me. That fight with my friend because of a crush, found out when they were talking about it, nobody even realized I wasn't there. Got purposely ignored in a group chat for few months until fight finally broke out which forced me to leave. Heck bringing her boyfriend to a fucking unicersity trip instead of talking to me. Now this bullshit. Sometimes I really wish there's a god so I can blame all of this on that bastard. But life is life, just like before, a sad story or a happy story, good or bad ending, in the end the story will still ends. This dream....... Seeing her with another girl, and end up chasing and looking for her reminded me of the real life. Maybe she really aren't interested (just the way I predicted), and looking and chasing after her reminds me of this relationship, it's entirely one way and it's getting annoying. I wouldn't want someone bothering me like this too if I'm not interested. Finally those orphans, reminded me of my responsibilities, it's I could try to chase after both, but it's always easier to focus on one thing. No matter what I'll either regret for life or get broken for trying too hard and failing.

I'm trying really hard not to worry anyone, I'm trying really hard to stay strong for everyone. But this is really hard, there are multiple occasions where I just want to run away. For fucks sake, my dreams alone can be written as another long ass post comparable to this one. It feels like there is no purpose for my existence except to suffer for someone else's sake. This is making it really hard to be nice in a cruel world like this. I'm pretty confident there is only bad ending for me, either I killed my self and bad end for everyone, or I'm gonna get broken and be the greatest villain. That would change the world, and depending on perspective could be a good ending (yet all of these are just mere thoughts, I don't even know how good I really am, not anymore anyway). Hope I'll feel better after this, I think I'll break off and......... Run way...... Again. I don't have a choice, I'll just keep all these minimal. Tbh I doubt that anyone will be reading this any time soon other than me. After all, this is still a burden, and there is no reason to carry it for someone else, it's just how the world works. I don't like being different, didn't had any choice, let's just see how I'll work it out. Happened once, this is just another stage.

I've Figured it Out, But The Answer is Ugly

To be honest I don't really need to keep updating this blog to keep my self sane anymore, I think I've already get the hang of 'depression'. I don't think I have it anymore, it doesn't feel the same, I just want to update this just in case I might need to read this in the future. Like I mentioned before, I'm loosing track of who I am, and it's difficult to remind myself of who I am with just the memory of a fictional character. I no longer feel pain, it's quite plain compared to the nightmare I've gone through. At this date I'm am currently working, next week I will be receiving my second pay cheque. How time had pass so fast. The truth is after all this time I think I'm starting to understand depression, and I think I know how to avoid it.

The reason/thing that triggers me to write this is the video posted by Laina (overly attached girlfriend) on YouTube. I think depression only occur when you feels like you're not doing enough, or achieving anything (I still feel that, but it's different, I'll explain it). I remembered (without reading my older post yet, still have no balls to do it) that I always told my self "why am I put inside this brain, I could do so much yet I am not achieving anything, what am I suppose to do to get out of this position?". I don't really know how it ended. Nowadays I'm having frequent breakdown (not as serious, just felt like shit), there are times that I felt like I have no idea WTF I'm doing with my life, and I don't know where it will lead me. This makes me scared, scared from being someone who I never wanted to be, but as life goes on I start to understand that change is unavoidable.

I still want to die, like really badly, but I'm not feeling sad, or pain, or anger, I just........ wants to die. I don't want to die suffering, just like what I wrote previously (iirc), I just want to disappear and have someone replace me, I don't want to open my eyes tomorrow, but at the same time have someone replace this body. I can't just drop everything and leave my family, that would be irresponsible af. The thing is I still have no balls to do it, the idea of no longer existing without achieving something stops me from doing anything stupid, and my family is too important to me to just leave behind like that. But at time gradually pass I start to accept that I am achieving something, but it is for someone else, not for me. The idea of me actually doing something stops me from getting into depression, but it doesn't stop Dreams.

Also some update on my life with 'relationship'. After getting hurt real bad by Sing Yee case (should I be writing her name? hmmm well I do write this to help my self keep track, but at the same time I'm quite worried about others reading this and ruining someone else's privacy), I no longer long for that feeling. There is a barrier, maybe fear, of getting hurt again. I don't think that I'll ever like someone that much anymore, simply just because I have learnt what relationship really are. I think I have been always living in a box, and never knew that what I think of relationship is way way way different from the real world. TBH I'm not that interested anymore, it feels like a pain in the ass to get into a relationship, cause what I seek from it is not something anyone can give me (unless one day I meet the 'right one' which I don't think will ever happen). For others, relationship is a way to get to know someone and have them satisfy your need. For me, relationship is having someone you know and trust be part of your life.

I don't know, I'm getting better at talking with girls, no idea why the fuck that's happening, but also there are way less expectation when I do it, it's more like just talking with someone out of pure interest (which is affected by my biased attraction towards opposite sex). Who knows, maybe one day this will change, but I don't really want to put much hope into it.

I have a feeling this depression thingy will come back if I don't handle it with care, maybe one day that I'll really kill my self (I don't mind dying, but I don't want people around me to get hurt because of it, I don't mind me getting fucked up, just not to the people I care about). Well yay, I'm still alive, haven't kill my self. Life is getting really boring, I'm also reaching the age where I could no longer improve my 'brain' anymore, I have at best few more years. I think I should give up, I'll just wait for all of these to end, it has to end somewhere. Then by that time, maybe I'll come back and think about what to do with 'me'.

PS: I realize without depression I actually give less shit about what I write, I think my previous posts should look more fancy. I just don't have the energy to give a shit any more. This will do just fine, as long as I could understand it.

Emergency (Weird Dream Series)

There we go, another weird ass dream, but this one unlike the last one kinda piss me off, and also kinda reveal how I actually see the world. It started in a drive, I was driving with my brother and another person that I couldn't remember to a shopping mall. On the way there we were reaching the toll, I think we were having some kind of conversation in the car and we starting noticing something strange from the car in front. An old lady was clenching to her husband while looking directly to the back like she was looking for help, since it was my fucking dream I instantly knew that her husband has a heart attack or stroke or something. I immediately asked my brother to stop her car, by instinct I wanted to ask him to stop from the front and slowly break the car behind, again it's my fucking dream, so that was already happening as another car was in front stopping it.

Once we got down I was in full panic mode, you know the days when you saw a beggar beside the road, you always wanted to help but you don't know how to, and you are kinda worried that you'll get attention from other people too (I don't know about others, but that's just how I felt, I just don't like attention unless I'm giving a talk or presentation). That was the same feeling, I had some first aid experience since I joined St. John Ambulance for few year in high school, but I had no idea where to start or what to do. 

I started by asking them (I don't know why there are people in the car, but everyone was in a panic mode as much as I am, it's my fucking dream duh) to lay the man down, since it was an MPV there are enough spaces. I wanted to start with the inspection, and go straight to CPR. But then a man appear in the car, commanding and doing as if it's his day job, I would assume he's a doctor (it's my .............. [guess the word]). When he started to notice me doing shits around his patient he asked me a very fucked up question, "Why are you here? why do you bother? Go continue your shopping or whatever". I replied "A lady clenching to her husband from the car in front of you screaming for help, what else would you do?". He replied in a very serious tone "Leave them be? Just continue what you were doing". Then I got pissed and said "Then what the fuck are you doing here? Why else are you doing all this? You're a doctor!". "Money, what else?". 

I dragged that bastard out of the car and punched him in the face (I'm not that aggressive in real live, maybe I was, but not really what I'll do now. Usually I stay calm and talk that person into submission). I remembered trying to slam his face against the car floor too. Then I just left the place screaming "Do whatever you want then". He was a doctor, I felt really helpless since he had all the power I wish I had, and in that situation no matter how much I want to help I could never be more useful than he does. I think its just my brain trying to simulate my hatred to how weak I am, by random chance of course. But I did learn something from this, it reminds me back of how human I am, and how much more I need to do if I were to get to where I actually want.

I think I should write more often, kinda get lazy recently, busy with my FYP, everything ended now so I should make some time too for this and maybe some reading.

Sister that I never had (weird dream series)

Welcome back to another series of Dreams's dream and he did not have any sleep yesterday night. This made me late for 40min to my class, but it's kinda worth it, at least for me.

I don't know if there's anything before this, but it's the most distinct dream that I've remembered. This is the first time that I could still remember a dream so realistically even hours after I woke up. It's interesting enough that I really want to write it down. Although this record will be mixed up with my feelings after I came back to reality, in the dream it felt much much more different.

From what I remembered, it started with a news that I had another elder sister (I don't have any sister), and for a moment in the dream I actually know that person. I remember asking the question "why nobody told me about any of this?", and the reply was "because of your mother", which pretty much tells you more about the drama. But the things I worried about in the dream was not about my dad (never even thought of him tbh, for some reason I trust him enough irl that even in my dream the fault was not on him), what I worried about was why wasn't she (sister) being treated fairly, and partly I feel annoyed by my mum's decision.

Of course irl if this happened thing would have felt much much more different. The main point of this is not the drama, it's how I felt in the dream. For a moment I was really angry, angry that someone so important in my life was never part of it, but also felt so bad that I really wants to protect her. I was so ready to love someone I doesn't actually know. An explanation to this is because my brain is so desperate for someone to rely on, it created all these vision from those feelings. For a moment I felt like I finally has someone to share my burden with, someone I could talk to. I wanted to cry, not because people hide the fact that I had another sister, or any family drama, but because I thought that finally, I have a person to talk to, share my thoughts with, at the same time I'll listen to her. I'm no longer the eldest in the family (still will be the eldest son), all these responsibilities, I don't have to carry all of them, she'll help me protect my brothers in my absence.

The moment I woke up, I felt a relieve, but at the same time, sad, that it did not happen. I have long been desperately looking for someone to rely on, and I could only get a taste of it in a short dream, which only made me long for even more. This memory is really sad but warm at the same time, I'll still protect her, the sister I never had, if she ever exist.

How Anime Actually Changed My World

Although it's vague, but I still do remember how all of these started. It all started with a stupid kid still trying to understand how the world works, trying his best to impress the others. At that time I had no idea I'm getting myself into, when I finally got convinced to watch K-ON! by my friend. I still remember watching it while expecting it to be something childish, cause all the anime I've ever watched was stuffs like Inuyasha, Naruto, MAR, or One Piece. To me K-ON! was pretty 'girlish', but I gave it a try anyway. But I quickly realise that there are much much more in anime, a world so perfect that it fills up all the empty holes you have in life, wishing that you could replicate those moment in real life.

I've always wanted to belong somewhere, but I never did, I just couldn't fit in, I was never good at socialising with people. But after watching K-ON! I started playing music, I 'tried' having my own band, that's where this feeling started, a group of people that I thought resemble what we had in K-ON!, friends that will laugh and cry with you. It still gives a sweet taste whenever I remember what I did with my friends during this period, although as time passes this feelings turned bittersweet, but I'm still glad that this has been part of me. This is probably what make me fall in love with anime even more, I was craving for the same feeling I get from K-ON!, and end up watching a hell lot other anime. Romance has always been my favourite, and probably because of that I could no longer understand what it's like falling in love irl. To be being in love is having someone that understands you, someone that will be there whenever you fall, waiting to catch you. Having this feeling for a guy and you'll be the best buddies, while having it for a girl means that's a romantic attraction. This could be because I've always seek companionship, like I said in an older post, trying to build my 'family'. This kind of relationship makes me feel complete. Sadly there are neither a guy or girl that makes me feel this yet, maybe because I just don't have the balls to trust anyone.

The thing is, in real life, the advises or life lessons people gives has never made me feel comfortable with being who I am, it always challenge me to be someone I'm not. I just see the world like no one else does, and this is really lonely. I like learning, especially science and mathematics, but the challenges 'life' gives has always demotivated me from doing anything to pursue those dreams. I've always been thinking, "only if I could just memorise all these stuffs and be a good student like what society wants me to, then I would have been able to pursue my dream, but it's just impossible to be as perfect as that". But anime........ anime is different, these fictional stories mirror real life while giving you a perspective from someone different, someone that doesn't exist, since it's fictional the stories can go as bad as they could, and the characters would always find a way to solve their problems. It convinced me that things will always go south, but you must always find a way through all these bullshits, that's how you grow. *cough* Hououin Kyouma! *cough*

That's when I started calling my self Dreams (and during the period where this is written, Oneiro, dreams in greek. It'll be an alternative since it's kinda difficult to get Dreams as ign), it's to remind me that there are a lot of things I wanted to do, and there are a lot of them that I could not right now, and might not be able to achieve. But there are no use sulking over it, if I don't do something nothing will change, I have to keep trying. I regret not watching any anime during those 'dark ages', and I have a feeling that it is probably just a step away from serious depression. I hope that whenever those feelings are back, I could read this and feel strong again, these feelings has been gone for quite awhile, I really do miss them, the feeling of being invincible while being totally aware of how weak I am, that is why I should always keep growing.

Just for the record, this is after watching Toradora, a phrase from the anime woke me up, "When you trip and fall, you get nosebleed, when trip in real life the nosebleed in life will be your tears, but you have to get up and keep running, standing there crying will change nothing". All these pain, it should be expected, but endure them, I understand that sometimes it hurt so much that you loose every hope you  have left in you, but once you get over them you will be much stronger, just like you do now after getting over that nightmare. You'll always grow, keep being who you are, and one day you might stop being alone, maybe you already do, but you just don't know.

[Interesting Idea] Pulling the peg

Just watched a video about atheism. The speaker believe that humanity is being pulled back from progress by religion, and he described it using trains. The trains are ran by scientist in the first cart, while subsequently the people behind are dragging the train slowing it down by not contributing. Posted it on Facebook and took it down after awhile, I think I should stop believing in talking to people about problems, they simply do not give a shit. Here's the post for record, this is an interesting idea, it does change my mind right now, but I'm not sure how this will affect me in the future, who knows it might even helps.

" People can believe whatever the fuck they want, but when the world ends it doesn't gives a fuck about what you believe. People needs to grow up and away from the fear of not being guided by a divine being, grow the fuck up and walk it yourself. Things aren't always gonna be okay....... when problem comes we have to fix it, ourselves.

Maybe instead of trying so hard for a lifetime to safe the one dragging us (us as in humanity, in case people get offended) behind, maybe the wisest choice to save humanity is to pull the peg.

PS: After writing this I also realize a big part that contribute to this is human's selfish desire to achieve their goal that defines only by their lifetime, we simply do not care about the fate of humanity far beyond ours, I may be the only one (or at least around me) that feel the terror whenever I think about the end of humanity, when fossil of our creation is left behind in a giant ball floating around in cold dark space. 

Apparently selfishness, although been taught to be negative, seems to be enjoyed and praised by humanity. We live in a world where everyone just wants to get rich, buy cars and houses that meant nothing after our death, and for guys sex seems to be extremely attractive (I really just do not understand this desire, I do seek companionship but there has never been just for sexual interaction, it would be nice if someone is actually out there but I think I've experience enough to understand that I'm definitely gonna walk this alone). 

The world needs another perspective, I would be dead if it's not for others' sake, there is simply no reason for me to exist, I live because people around me wants me to and expect me to. I am not saying this to feel superior, it is just that I feel extremely lonely, there is simply no one that share the same perspective, and no one that actually cares, I do not know how to convince others anymore, it seems that I'm the one that is not fitting in, I have already lost the confident to be vocal (for matters that is related to this discussion). I believe that if human were to survive for thousand more years we need to stop thinking just about 'me', but about 'us'. This is something that is not in our gene, I don't think human will ever understand this concept. I still remember the time that I thought that being different means being like Einstein, or Tesla, or Newton, or Davinci, this is not as fun as I thought I guess "

The Snake With A Thousand Layers Of Skins

My mind can't seem to make any firm decisions, day by day things are changing all around while my view of this world transform from one to another. Things that I thought meant a lot no longer triggers any emotion, while new things kept coming in and makes me drift away from the path that I thought was inevitable. It feels like there are new roads emerging all round while I'm just walking blindfolded like a fool. I no longer understand what is important, all I can do now is gather all the old memories and piece by piece complete the puzzle, praying that I will see a complete picture in the end of this 'game'. All I can do now is treasure what was and has always been important, as I do not know when these will be either be lost or fade away in the background turning insignificant. 

I do not know who I am, this has always, always......... been a problem. The realization every time an important memory triggers in my brain turns me insane, there is so much sadness, and hope, hoping that what has been just dreams can one day come true. I no longer feel depress, only sadness, emptiness, the fire of hatred has burnt out, turning into disappointment. Every year, at this moment, the same feeling would emerge. Have I been waiting for someone? Have I been waiting for something to happen? This year........ am I running away from something? Is there something that I must do? It may be a confusion caused by excitement from an old memory, although a moment ago it does not feels like anything important.

My journey, feels like a snake with a thousand layers of skins, every layers are different from one another but also very much similar. Day by day the skin will shed while the snake no longer knows what it looks like until looking at the mirror. Sometimes I wonder if I really am the same person I thought I wanted to be, or am I just another personality created to fit into the story, while the real person has always been hiding inside waiting for someone to open the door. I just do not know.......... This may feel like nonsense but I really wish I could find the answer, the only thing I can use to tell me who I am, is Dreams, always remember Dreams.

I'll let it end there, tried writing something different this time, I wonder what it will feel like when it is read in the future again. It feels excited while at the same time scary, because every single thing wrote here is what I felt at this moment. I may be reading this in the future while retaining the memory of doing this but no longer understand the reasons or emotions behind this. I have always hope that someone would replace the consciousness in this body, maybe it is working, but not in the way I was hoping it to be, as consciousness is just an illusion. No matter what I do, this body will still exist, and memory will still be made.